What awkward length?


Posted in News on July 19th, 2011 by Reagan

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I asked Jake to take my picture when I got home from work tonight, because I felt like I had a good hair day today. It’s not that it was anything special, or that I did anything special with it..which is how it ended up feeling so nice. I felt like it looked good just being it’s own-natural but slightly enhanced with product-self, which doesn’t happen every day, am I right?

Before I went short last spring, I had thought about going short for a long time. At least over a year. The thing I worried about most was the awkward in between length I had heard such terrible things about. I knew I would want to grow out my long hair again soon after cutting it, so I felt really conflicted for a while.

One day I decided I was ready to cut my hair short. So what I did before the big chop, was have a little pow-wow with myself and my hair. This pow-wow was to decide the mood for the next year or two. I vowed with my hair and myself that day, that I was only going to cut it if I was going to like it. Not just like the short cut in the beginning, but like it at each length as it grew out. Liking it all along the way. Not complaining that it’s not long..not regretting the cut…and not letting the unknown in-between stage get me down.

I’m not sure if that pow-wow has worked, or if I just really have loved my hair over the last year. I loved it short, I loved it shoulder length and I’m sure I’d love it during the awkward in between stage if I knew when that was. I feel like it’s supposed to be now, but it can’t be, because I love it now too.

So, before you all think that I’m just bragging about how awesome and glorious my hair is, let me tell you this. The reason I like it, is because I do things to it. I cut it when it’s losing shape or the ends are getting dry, I color it when I’m bored of what’s going on, I play with it by braiding and bunning and fat twisting it, and I appreciate the fact that I have hair on my head at all.

So many times I think we get lazy with our hair. I meet people who say “I never do my hair because it is ____”, then I look up at the messy bun on top of their head and see healthy/lush hair that could literally do anything I tell it to, and I know that they’ve never even tried. There is always something you can do to make your hair look good. Which will always make you feel a little better and prettier in the end.

This is kind of a weird post, but I think what I’m trying to get across to you all, is that if you want to love your hair, you can. By deciding to like it and spending time (even a little!) on it despite what you find wrong with it..awkward lengths or frizziness)…you can eliminate one less thing in your life to stress about, and add one more thing to be happy about.

Let’s stop making excuses and just have awesome hair, ok? Yay!

I love you guys and your hair muy mucho.

(ps, this post was inspired by my friend Jana Mobley. who i found out is the first person I’ve ever known who likes the awkward in between length as much as I do!)



22 Responses to “What awkward length?”

  1. Marisa Says:

    No, this is a great post! “If you want to love your hair, you can.” This is my new mantra. Great message for so many of us. Thank you!

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  2. brandilyn Says:

    i’m an in-between lover, too! i’m totally there right now. fantastic post.
    unrelated to this awesome post: YOUR DRESS OMG I LOVE IT TOO MUCH YOU LOOK ADORABLE!!

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  3. MelanieBaker Says:

    you are so cute! I love your dress. And cheers to appreciating having hair at all! <3

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  4. Amalia Says:

    I needed this boost…Thank you! Great mantra. Made an appointment and getting my hair cut TODAY!

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  5. sarah Says:

    love this unique and honest post. you’re too cute!!!!

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  6. Amber Says:

    You made me love my OWN hair. For that, I will always do what ever you tell me to do. so…. “Today, at this awkward length, I love you hair.”

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  7. Kim Says:

    I think maybe you didn’t cut your hair short enough to experience the awkward stage. If you had, believe me, you would know it!
    And thx for all your advice & tutorials. I am not good at that stuff, but it’s a lot of fun to try!

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  8. lisa Says:

    loive it

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  9. Carrie Says:

    I grew my hair out and loved it for about 5 hot seconds before starting to wear it in a pony/bun ALL the time. My hairdresser finally said enough and cut it to an awkward growing out stage and I love it. It’s short enough for me to do everyday but long enough to feel pretty. Awkard can work.

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  10. Robin Says:

    Thanks for this! I’ve been growing my hair out for a while and just got a terrible hair cut. I debated just letting it be for a couple of months before I cut it again so it wouldn’t be shorter, but then decided it was better to have a shorter hair cut that looked good than to have a terrible long hair cut.

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  11. Danae Says:

    A couple of years ago, I had a baby, and my hair just stopped growing. I mean, dead STOPPED. That was weird for me, because I’m used to my hair growing quickly, and I had a lot of anxiety about what it was and wasn’t doing. But in the last few months, I have been reading your blog, and it has totally given me inspiration! I think you are right, that a lot of loving your hair is just paying attention to it, and being willing to try new things. Luckily, my hair has started growing again, which makes me happy, and ironically makes me want to try cutting it short again (but maybe that’s just the summer heat talking?), but I have had a lot of fun trying new things with my hair, and most of them are fun tutorials I find here! Thanks!

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  12. Linda Says:

    Love your blog! Great advice on loving your hair. Your hair is very similar to mine as far as waviness. Can I ask your styling routine for your natural wavy look? Thanks!

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  13. Joellen Says:

    I used to cut my hair short, love it until it grew to the awkward length then wear it in a ponytail until it was longer. I’ve been reading your blog for several months now, and you have absolutely inspired me to love my length and my natural texture. My hair and I have never been so happy or so pretty as we are now that we met you! Thank you so much!

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  14. Julie Says:

    New to both of your blogs and I love them!!
    Besides flying to NY to see you to get hair help I wondered if I could decribe my hair to you for suggestions. Or, maybe you could do a Q & A if other followers have questions as well???
    I look forward to reading your blogs everyday!!

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  15. jeannie Says:

    i love your blogs also. you’re a cool girl. my daughter and i both like you. she does my hair following your tutorials. :-)

    anyway, today’s sentiment is spot on. when i was your age I thought i was “fat”. would not wear a bathing suit in front of others (boyfriends, mostly) when I truly enjoy swimming. ugh. LOVE THE BODY/HAIR YOU HAVE, GIRLS! fortunately i’m not TOO old to go with it.

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  16. Andrea Says:

    Yesssssssss!!!! Love your logic. I would suggest that loving anything or anybody requires work, and since we wear our hair every day, our hair deserves some attention!! Also I love my hair. And you did it. And you are wonderful/sweet/charming. There. I said it.

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  17. Katie Says:

    I loved this post Reag. I complain about my hair way too often when in reality if I spent a little extra time on it, it could look awesome.

    Speaking of, I scheduled a haircut with you in a couple weeks – can’t wait!

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  18. katharine Says:

    I completely agree with you!! I feel the same way, & tell my clients that too! If you think,feel & say it out loud & stay POSITIVE it happens!

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  19. Dimitra Doupi Says:

    Thank you Reagan, it is so easy to find things to be discontent with and angry about, and bizzarily or maybe because of their evident presence, hair gets the rant of it all often. I never understood that in myself up until recently, when I started exploring my attachments to anger, ennui and ” control” over things that have nothing to do with who I really am and what I really love. My new favorite question to ask is: is that true for me now? ” And act, think and feel the answer out.

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  20. Emma Says:

    I just discovered this blog and this post completely reflected how I’ve been feeling lately. My hair is the longest it’s ever been, which is what I wanted my whole life…and I’m still not happy. I’ve been afraid to get a haircut and to even bother styling it, blah blah. But recently I made the decision to shut up and do my hair, and this post gave me an extra boost of support. No more hating my hair…I’m going to grow a pair and appreciate the bounty that’s on my head!!

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    Anna Wintour wearing a green dress walking down the red carpet on starkly, light-colored Louboutin high heels just create over effect, so it does not look very stiff shape.

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  22. Emma lee Says:

    I debated just letting it be for a couple of months before I cut it again so it wouldn’t be shorter, but then decided it was better to have a shorter hair cut that looked good than to have a terrible long hair cut.

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